Hey, Loves! Welcome to my new (and hopefully improved) blog! I wanted to start things off with a little series I’m going to call, “Heart to Hearts”, where I’d like to share more about my personal life, experiences as a Mom, and what I’m feeling at the moment. This may sound strange, but I actually stepped out of my comfort zone when I started my original blog 2 years ago, since I’m not a big social media person, in general. I hardly ever use my Facebook account and never explored other social media platforms until I started blogging. Once I started my blogging journey, I found that learning about Green Living and actually being a part of the Green Beauty and Lifestyle Community are definitely two different experiences. I’m so glad I transcended my social anxiety because it created the possibility of meeting all of the amazing, inspiring people I’ve connected with over the past 2 years and I’m so excited to see what the future holds! The Green Beauty Community is filled with educated, empowered women and people from all over the world who are filled with so much positivity, hope, and love.
Shortly into my blogging journey, I became pregnant with my now 14 month old son and I had a very difficult pregnancy. All of the fire that was originally ignited at the start of my blog was quickly snuffed out with all of the hurdles I faced throughout my pregnancy, which caused me to take a step back from blogging and engaging in social media. I shut the majority of the world out, in order to deal with what I was facing in my internal world. Blogging is something that a person has to be truly passionate about, as it takes an incredible amount of time, commitment, and focus.
After having my son, I struggled with finding my sense of self within the scope of my new role as a mom. I also had to adjust to life as a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) when I originally imagined that I would continue focusing on establishing my career as a Licensed Counselor. I spent the majority of my 20’s in college and then grad school with the goal of being a therapist with a private practice only to graduate and become pregnant before my career was established. I always knew I wanted a family, I just imagined it playing out in a different timeline. As with most things in life, I learned that hard work and dedication don’t always amount to immediate success in one’s chosen field. Truly accepting that life isn’t fair without beating myself up and over-analyzing the situation is one of the hardest lessons I ever learned. I never thought of myself as an entitled person, but thinking that my dream job was owed to me in a sense after putting my entire heart and soul into my education and work in the mental health field, does in fact classify as feeling entitled to something. Of course, everyone ideally wants to succeed in any chosen endeavor, but success doesn’t always come quickly, if at all. If there are hurdles along the way, these are experiences that we can learn from, rather than shy away from. I felt as if the entire Universe was against me and I allowed my failures and setbacks to define who I was. After having a lot of time to assess my situation, I realize now that what I should have done was move on from the company that wasn’t giving me room to grow and I should have persevered in finding another job despite how difficult and competitive the job market is.
I know we’ve all heard it before, that being a parent is an all-consuming responsibility, but knowing this reality and living it are two very different things. I found it to be incredibly difficult to separate myself as a mother, which caused a vicious cycle of essentially running on Empty at all times. We have to take care of ourselves in order to fully care for the people we love around us. The unconditional love that is poured into a young baby is both beautiful beyond words and depleting at the same time. If we don’t take time to recharge our inner fire, we will never burn brightly in any aspect of our lives.
I essentially had to get to know myself all over, again, one day at a time. Becoming a parent has changed my entire view of the world and my place in it. When we’re depressed, the things that we used to love and enjoy don’t have the same effect on us anymore. I felt overwhelmed by the idea of making time for myself and I also felt that nothing I could do would be valuable “enough” to share with the world. The last thing I would ever want to do is put more negativity out into the universe. I felt that I really didn’t have much to give.
However, I quickly realized that many people only share the cookie cutter version of their unique reality filled with those “Perfect moments” that we all compare our own lives to… Once we play the comparison game, we soon become aware that we can never truly measure up to an ideal that’s only showing part of the story. No one’s life is ever perfect in every way, no matter how it appears from the outside looking in. It’s never healthy to compare where we are with where someone else appears to be because we only know part of the story.
Family is one of the most amazing gifts of life… It’s also incredibly messy, ever changing, and difficult. Trying times are just as common as Happy times and seeing both ends of the spectrum makes us stronger as individuals and as a community. This is why I feel it’s so important to keep things real. I share when I’m having a hard time and what I may be struggling with. We can all learn and grow from each other this way! For example, the photos in this post are from the first professional photo shoot we did as a family. Just looking at these photos, would you ever guess that we were all incredibly sick and my son was screaming throughout most of it? Probably not, but that’s what was happening! In the above photos, we’re all trying to make the best of the moment we were in, and in the end, that’s all we can really aim to do as people who are trying to figure out this ever changing thing we call Life.
Always remember that no life is perfect and we can never wait for a time that will be “just right” for any endeavor. Sometimes, we just have to push through hard times and make a moment what it is meant to be. When we step outside of our comfort zones, we realize just how much more we’re capable of if only we allow ourselves to do more and worry less, overall.
Now let’s get into my plans for the new blog!
- Affordable Green Beauty reviews, swatches of products, and FOTD’s
- Health & Wellness Tips
- Sharing safe and effective products for babies and children
- Heart to Hearts as a Green Mama
- One Stop Shop on Amazon that conveniently links to all of my favorite natural products on Amazon
- Book Reviews
- Links (Both Affiliate and Non-Affiliate) for your convenience if you want to check out more details on a product
- Coupon codes to save on items you might be interested in purchasing
***Note: Let’s quickly talk about Affiliate links. If you’ve been following me for a while or are new to my blog, you’ll soon learn that I’m very honest in my opinions about products. If I have an affiliate link to any given product, please know that I have to absolutely LOVE the brand/product without a doubt in my mind. I have no intention of sharing products with you that I’m not passionate about or use myself. Affiliate links can have a bad rep, but they only serve to help support the person that you’re following. Creating, maintaining, and buying products to share is quite expensive and affiliate links make it a little bit more manageable to possibly break even at the end of the year. I love to support Indie companies and there’s a lot less monetary incentive to do this, but I feel very strongly that supporting small businesses is very important in today’s day and age. I also balance that with reality, too, which is why I myself purchase many household items from Amazon. I still like to support small brands on Amazon, which is what I imagine is the best of both worlds. Amazon provides the convenience and the individual companies that sell on Amazon are still supported, too. I just want you to know that I’m not here to sell you something. That’s not my goal and that’s definitely NOT why I started blogging. I’m here to share about all things Green Living and if my words helped you make an informed decision and you’d like to buy a product based on my review, you have the option to support me by using the links in my posts.
I’m so excited to get into blogging regularly, again! I have so many ideas that I can’t wait to share with you all! Thank you so very much for your support, encouragement, and for simply being YOU!
I hope you have a beautiful day!
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***All Photos in this post were taken by EB Photography (Found on Facebook)